Valentine's Day is quickly approaching. It seems this day of love has been reduced to sending the obligatory card and thoughtless gift. I see people searching through racks of generic cards and scarfing up artificially flavored chocolates every where I go. I want to grab them by the hand and show them another way, a better way, to romance their lover. Come...I'll guide you through some creative ways to spice up your Valentine's Day using each of the 5 love languages.
The 5 Love Languages, refer to Dr. Gary Chapman's theory that there are 5 distinct and unique ways we prefer to give and receive love. They include: words of affirmation, receiving gifts, acts of service, physical touch, and quality time. The idea is to understand and communicate your, and your partners, preferred way of receiving love. Having this knowledge will allow you to better meet each other's needs. To discover your love language go to www.5lovelanguages.com.
1. Woo with words! Ditch the generic card and instead put pen to paper. Taking the time to write a handwritten love letter is one of the most romantic gestures I can think of. All you need to do is simply and sincerely put your feelings into words. It's such a personal and meaningful way to connect. You could hand deliver your letter or you may even want to mail it. When is the last time you opened your mailbox to find something you actually wanted to open? Words of affirmation...priceless!
2. Shop till you Drop! You may already use Valentine's Day as an excuse to spice up your lingerie collection but have you ever thought of inviting your Valentine to shop with you? You might think shopping is the last thing your man wants to do but if done properly it will be his pleasure. I suggest sneaking into the dressing room together (shhh...don't tell Victoria Secret). Remember, most men are visually stimulated so give him a little fashion show and let him select the outfit that lights his fire. Receiving gifts as foreplay...yes please!
3. Take a seat! Learn the art of chair dancing and give your partner a gift that is far sweeter than chocolate. This is what I commonly hear from women BEFORE they take my chair dancing workshop..."I'm not sexy enough." (everyone has a sexy side), "I can't dance." (there's not much dancing in chair dancing), "I'm too embarrassed." (YOLO), "He would have a heart attack." (and die happy). Here is what I hear from women AFTER they take my chair dancing workshop..."That was SO much fun!", "I feel sexy.", "I feel empowered.". My personal favorite is "It started out as a gift for him but became a gift for me too.". Acts of Service that are mutually beneficial...score!
4. Order Desert to go! If dinner is your go to for date night then you will appreciate this tip. Let me paint the scene: you order dinner, drinks and desert at a fancy restaurant only to find yourself too stuffed and sleepy for the "main course". On Valentine's Day, allow me to suggest splitting an entree and getting desert (with extra whipped cream) to go. Bring your sweetie home and turn your bedroom into the kitchen, your partner into your plate, and your mouth into...well, you get the picture. Physical touch goes gourmet...YUM!
5. Read in bed! Sound boring? There is nothing boring about climbing into bed with a juicy book (a la Fifty Shades of Grey). Take turns reading aloud to each other. It could become a nightly ritual that takes you well beyond Valentine's Day. Quality time...sweet dreams!
I'd love to hear how you put these tantalizing tips to use this Valentine's Day. Feel free to share your story by commenting below or find me on....
Lots of Love,