One of my goals as a life coach is to help people in a holistic way. I want to help my clients realize their potential in all aspects of their life, including their sex life. Let's be honest, sex is important. We all crave good...no, great...no, MIND BLOWING sex. True? Read on to learn three unexpected ways you can improve the quality of your sex life!
* EXERCISE! I imagine you've heard the benefits of exercise a million times so I won't bore you with talk about the feel good power of endorphins or the enhanced body image that come with regular exercise. Instead, I want to share with you a secret. whispering...Choosing exercise that activates your hips will dramatically improve your sex life. I teach Zumba and BUTI Yoga both of which are filled to the brim with hip movement. People frequently tell me how sexy they feel after taking one of my classes. Part of the reason has to do with the amount of hip movement in both Zumba and BUTI. Hip movement stimulates the sacral chakra bringing energy to that part of your body. It releases pent up tension and stagnate energy. Repetitive hip movement also enhances rhythm. Rhythm through the hips is crucial for quality sex because rhythm is a major factor in bringing about orgasm. The big "O"...elusive for some. If the quality or quantity of your orgasms are an issue for you, practice rhythmic hip movement and watch the magic unfold!
*HEAL past Trauma!
I'm going to go out on a limb and say that most women have been sexually "traumatized" in some way, at some point in their lives. I have heard so many heartbreaking stories, both personally and professionally, of sexual trauma over the years. Even if you have never been physically assaulted, there are other more subtle ways your sexuality can be injured. Maybe you received negative messages about healthy sexuality during your formative years. These messages can leave you feeling guilt and shame when expressing your sexuality as an adult. Maybe a lover made a negative comment that has lingered in your memory. Maybe societal pressure to look a certain way has contributed to a negative body image. Having a negative body image can inhibit you from fully enjoying your sex life. Perhaps you violated your own set of standards or crossed a sexual boundary of your own making.
If any of these scenarios rings true for you, I strongly encourage you to do whatever is necessary to heal. You deserve a healthy and happy sex life! The specific process for healing will be different for everyone's unique personality and situation. Here are some ideas: read books on related topics, journal, meditate, and/or pray. I would encourage you to talk to a therapist or life coach about your specific circumstance. It's amazing what progress you can make when a non-judgmental trained person helps you sort through the static in your head.
* Be ADVENTUROUS!
On a much lighter note, don't underestimate the value of going on an adventure. This could mean just about anything as long as it feels adventurous to you. Maybe traveling to an exotic local is your idea of an adventure, rock climbing, scuba diving, road tripping without a plan or a map, eating alone in a restaurant, asking an attractive stranger out on a date, trying a new activity. It doesn't matter if it's big or small (its how you wiggle it). ;) How does having a sense of adventure effect ones sex life? When you muster up the courage to do something that scares you, you feel empowered. Empowered women (and men) have better sex because they aren't afraid to try new things and they don't wait for others to provide them pleasure. They seek it out for themselves. Adventurous spirits are simply more interesting which will undoubtedly help you attract and/or sustain a relationship with a like minded person who will be ready to have adventures in and out of the bedroom!
I hope you've enjoyed reading my take on how to enhance your sex life. I'd love to hear your thoughts. I welcome all respectful discussion. Share with your friends and invite them to join the conversation too! :)